It seems to me that there is quite a crowd of women between the ages of 30 and 40 who can not find Mr Right.
Online dating sites brag about the rate people that find love usingÂ their programs, but in real life they seem to fall short of their lofty success reports. Women between the ages of 30 and 40 are finding themselves in limbo when it comes to landing the man of their dreams, especially if they have high standards. More and more I hear how there are so few “good” men out there and that the ones they date always fall short of capturing not just their heart but simply their interest.
Yesterday I stood between four women aged 35 to 50 and listened to them question ones relationship status. This woman being questioned is about to turn 40 and had been through a marriage that went bad. That was 7 years ago and today, she finds herself still looking for Mr Right. Sandy (not her real name) is a great girl who is not only very attractive but intelligent, witty, honest and sincere. She is also very independent and well liked by everyone who knows her. Why then can’t she find what shes looking for? She explained how just recently she met a new guy, who is 40 and without baggage (means no ex wife, no kids) which is rare these days. She also mentioned that he would like children and that is one of the things Sandy is looking for in a man. One of the women stated that at 40, he knows what he wants as opposed to earlier in his life. I laughed aloud when I heard that statement because usually men say they can not figure out women because they are always changing. t Matter of fact, men who are married often state that their wives are no longer the girl they married (see earlier posts for more on this). When I laughed they asked why I had, and I couldn’t help but chime in. I said that men were simple in what they want and that it never changes. Perhaps it’s that women at this age don’t want the same things as they did years ago when we were closer in what we both wanted and expected from each other. I said that men wanted the same things now as we did then. Sex, good food, toys and laughter. Its is really very simple, but for a woman at this age the sex we want is always too much, women don’t have time to cook or don’t know how, the love of cars, motorcycles, sports, and electronics never did anything for woman to begin with, and laughter is childish( ie: the Three Stooges come to mind). A good example might be this: In high school just about every girl wanted the jock boyfriend. He was into all the things I mentioned above and to some extent so was she. She played sports or went to to the games(maybe to meet one of the jocks). She thought his car was “cool” especially if it was a convertible, because then everyone could see her in it. Now, if you look at that guy today, he is still the same but the woman his age considers him “childish” for being the same man today as he was back then. Today the women want the “geek” who back in high school they made fun of or never paid any attention to his attraction to her. He was weird or goofy, skinny or dressed funny. Not COOL. Too bad because now all those great guys are probably the nerds who are married and successful. Oh the jocks are probably married too or they are bald and fat and are now the unattractive ones. One hell of a vicious cycle huh?
So in this day of single girls outnumbering single guys, where does a great girl find her soul mate? That question will probably go without answer forever because as they say “you can’t force love because it happens when you least expect it”.
Just one mans opinion…
The Regular Guy
You say, “bald and fat” like it’s a BAD thing.
BTW, very good observations, as usual. I would point out that there is difference between childISH and child LIKE. Although, many “mature” women don’t seem to be able to distinguish between the two. Too bad, so sad.
Well written article as usual. I was 40 when I finally found the love of my life. She was 35. We are still together and still have love for each other, besides a great son. There are time, like all relationships, it’s a rough going, but I think because we were “older” than the so called “norm”, we are able to work any problems out. I have to admit, The Three Stooges thing is so true. Why don’t women think they are fuuny is a great mystery? I’ve seen them all, and still laugh out loud. My 10 year old son thinks they are funny as well. (Makes me feel like I am bringing him up right). I don’t know to many single woman, but one I do who I used to work with, can’t seem to find the “right” guy and I can’t figure out why. Perhaps, there is more to it than meets the eye. But, I believe what you said, that it happens when you least expect it. I had my doubts for ever that the right girl would never enter my life, but it happened. There’s nothing wrong with praying for the right one to come along, but that’s another subject for another time. Just more thing, several years ago I saw one of those High School jocks working at liquor store behind the counter. He didn’t look like such a jock any more, but there was a part of me that got a kick out of it.
Great article. Seems to me a mens needs, wants and desires are universal and have not changed since the cave man. Seems to me womens needs, wants and desire revolve around coach bags, Macys, slimfast, Botox and Liposuction. Is this for her man, themselves and/or their girlfriends that talk behind their backs. Perfect example….I go to a pool party, guy at the bar has on the exact hawaiian print shirt I have on. He offers me a beer and we are brothers bonded at the hip. My wife/girlfriend/ date is with me. She see a women at the same party, the women has same blouse on, but she wearing white shorts and not the black long pants she’s wearing. She turns to me and says” Do I look fat in these pants” “Does she look better than me”. WTF what planet do women live on? SO you wonder why 35-40 yeqrs old women don’t have men???? Perhaps they need/want sex, good food, toys and laughter…. I know thats all I need and want and I will cherish that women till the day I die……Enuf said!!!!!!